How Do I feel safe taking the next steps?

Fear of failure has kept me frozen many a time. It has stopped me from allowing positive changes such as going on adventurous solo trips, making new friends, pursuing romance, and starting new projects. It is hard for me to let go of the “what ifs” when something is new to me. Even building this website and offering EFT/Tapping brought on a plethora of stop and gos because I am afraid of failing.

The first time I was set to offer a women’s breathwork session I felt so anxious. I created the flyer and email with fervor, but when it came to finally hitting the send button, I froze. I sat there wringing my hands and biting my lip staring at the computer screen. After so long, I finally pushed myself to click “Send.” I didn’t regret it, but I definitely felt the fear and worry of failure looming.

At the time, I didn’t have the skills to soothe that part of me that was scared to try something new and put myself out there as a facilitator. I looked to outside resources to assure me that I was going to do just fine, which helped in the moment but not in the long-run.

If I were to go back to that time, I would allow that scared part of myself, who I call the inner child, have a voice. I would allow her to express how she feels in whatever way that looks like; i.e. crying, talking, hiding or all of the above.

Nowadays, when I allow myself this space, there a release of pressure to just suck it up and perform. In fact, after I allow myself to freak out, there is peace because the inner child feels held and validated. As a result, I am able to take a step forward with more ease and joy.